My social life basically depends on my two only moods: going out dancing all night vs. staying home and watching LHH (the season finale is around the corner Y’all!) When I first moved to New York I was exhausted, and I couldn’t figure out why. I tried all sorts of remedies and different energy tonics, and then I realized; I was going out and socializing every night! It wasn’t that I was drinking too much or staying up too late, but I was definitely ignoring my introverted side who needs to stay home sometimes and be in silence. Does this happen to you? Are you too an outgoing introvert? Check out our list and see for yourself!
1. If we like you, we probably want to be friends with you right away.
We don’t like that many people, and we definitely know the type of people we vibe with. If we meet you at a party and we like you, we’ll be inviting you out for a coffee and maybe to a party with our friends or even to get mani-pedis with us! We know that it’s difficult to connect and find people that we want to be friends with so if we like you, we won’t be shy about wanting you to be your friend.
2. We spend a lot of time in our heads.
I’ve been a daydreamer since I was a kid and, to be honest, I spend a lot of time daydreaming now. I love to talk and to go out, but I also like to spend time in my head dreaming about my next vacation or about that shirt I saw last week in a store. If you’re talking to us and we’re not listening, it’s not because we don’t like you but because we’re planning our next adventure in our heads.
3. We’re great listeners! (when we’re not in our heads)
We love to listen, and we like to connect. Since we have spectrums of introversion that makes us better listeners and more in tune with what people feel.
4. But sometimes we don’t want to talk.
Sometimes we go out just to be around people and we don’t want to talk to anyone. I know, it’s a tad confusing.
5. Sometimes we’re weird with with our phones.
Sometimes it can take us days to get back to people, and it’s not because we don’t care but because it takes a lot of energy from us to talk to everyone and we need some time for ourselves. Phones can be intrusive at times, and when we don’t want to deal with that, we go MIA.
6. Our energy level depends on the environment.
This basically means that when we’re having the time of our lives we have so much energy it is unreal. But if we don’t, we tend to be more introspective and withdraw into ourselves. This might be because of a variety of reasons, but it’s generally because we dislike how confined small talk can be (and how boring, to be completely honest) so we try to avoid it because we find it exhausting.
by Maria Alejandra Barrios
